Have you ever found yourself looking at another person and wishing you were their size? I think we’ve all been there. Comparing ourselves to others and even admiring how another person looks.
Last weekend at Weight Watchers a lady shared how she felt when her 8 year old niece complained about being ‘fat’. The lady went on to explain how she responded to her niece and how the whole situation motivated her to “lose the rest of her excess weight”.
I’m pretty sure my jaw dropped for a moment! Sitting in front of me was this woman who I assumed was already at her goal weight. I couldn’t even believe she had more weight to lose. What I realized in that moment is that my skinny isn’t your skinny and that sometimes we’re blinded by the number on the scale.
Just last week I was looking through old pictures and I stumbled upon this picture of me.
My current self just couldn’t believe how skinny I was…. but let me tell y’all, when I took that picture I know I didn’t see myself as skinny. I was working extremely hard to lose weight before getting pregnant, had just finished my first 24 Day Challenge, and was really struggling to get out of the 230’s. What I didn’t realize was just how fit I was!
I’ve shared this many times here on Coffee Cake and Cardio, but I think a lot of us are too hard on ourselves!! Sure, we may not be at our goal weight or have the figure we hope to have some day, but I think it’s so important to recognize the fruits of our labor AND how much more unhealthy we could become if we don’t change our habits now.
I was really blown away that the Weight Watchers member saw herself as “fat” (her words). I would LOVE to be at her weight, but what I realized is that I could reach her weight and still feel overweight and out of shape. It kinda goes back to my thoughts on weight loss never ending. So much of weight loss is mental. You really hard to change the inside in order to be happy with the outside.
I haven’t talked numbers here on Coffee Cake and Cardio since having my daughter because I just don’t know what my goals are just yet. My body is my body and it’s hard to say “I want to weigh 180” when I have no idea what that will feel like, look like, or the sacrifices it’ll take to get there. I think it’s really important to focus on each individual day and to not get too far ahead of myself. My first goal should be to get back to that first picture and to feel proud of what I’ve achieved. My skinny isn’t your skinny and your skinny isn’t my skinny. We all have different goals and we ALL look different at the same weight. Your 180 isn’t my 180 and I think it’s really important to remember that!
We’re all more than just a number…
