I’ve always loved goal setting. There’s just something about finding motivation for the future and dreaming of the things to come. Ever since becoming a mom, I’ve worked hard to make the most of today. Sure, I still love establishing new years resolutions, creating monthly goals, and reevaluating my life on my birthday, but every year I realize just how important it is for me to make the most of the day before me.
After turning 33 a few weeks ago, I’ve taken a little longer than usual to think about my goals and the year ahead of me. My 20’s were all about “the next big thing”. I crammed as much as I could into my days, weeks, and months and never wanted to miss out. I was always up to something and honestly, I’m glad I lived that way. I’m so glad I took a leap of faith and moved to New Hampshire after college (and then back to DC). I’m so glad I opened my eyes to the world around me, made incredible friends, and traveled. I’m so glad I met my husband and worked to build the life we have together! My 20’s were awesome and yet a big piece of me was happy to close that door when I turned 30.
Just a month prior to turning 30 I had my daughter. Turning 30 wasn’t hard for me, but I think Magnolia had a little something to do with that. She opened my eyes to a life I didn’t know I was missing. She helped me to see the wonder in second and made me live in the present. Instead of wishing away the days, I was wishing the days would slow down. 3 years later, I feel exactly the same way.
Time passes too quickly and yet the older I get the more I realize just how lucky we are to have each day. The older I get, the more heartbreak I see in the world around me. The older I get, the more I want to protect my loved ones and stay in this safe little bubble we live in. I treasure my family like nothing else, and at 33, I’m starting to reevaluate the little things that keep me from my family. The things that don’t add depth, value, and joy to my life.
Last year taught me to be selfish. To be selfish with my time, selfish about my family, and selfish about my dreams. ‘Selfish’ has such a negative connotation, but to me, this past year taught me that I can’t be all things for all people. That it’s not selfish to have priorities and to put certain things before others. I learned that I just can’t do everything at 100% and still be 100% for the family and my own wellness.
I haven’t figured it all out, but this year opened my eyes to how important it is to put my wellness, marriage, and children first. Those 3 things matter more to me than anything else in this world and it’s ok to be “selfish” in order to protect them and to see them thrive. I’ve allowed too many things to muddy the water and become more important than the things that matter most to me.
For me, I want to spend this next year in a constant state of reevaluation and to make decisions for how to move closer to the life and lifestyle my children and family deserve. I want to be my healthiest, to create traditions that my children will remember and cherish as they get older, and to love my husband the way he deserves to be loved each day.
This year, I want to…
- Sit down with a cup of coffee and a journal often
- Redefine my fitness and wellness as a mom of two
- Make the holidays, all of the holidays, memorable for my children
- Establish traditions our family can build upon as the years pass
- Develop a vision board and 5 year plan for our family
- Save for our future, focusing on experiences, not on things
- Develop a system for saving our digital photographs and publishing our memories
- Establish stronger boundaries in order to focus on my family when I am home
- Knock on doors and see where they take me (studying for my NASM CPT for example)
- Rekindle my confidence
- Reduce the assumptions I jump to and increase positivity in my life
- Give my children the space to explore, learn, and love
- Paint the walls, hang our artwork, and invest in making our house our home
I feel good about 33! I can’t believe I have a 3 year old and 3 month old, but boy do the days pass quickly. I pray for a healthy year and for the space to soak up every moment. I am forever grateful for the year behind me and look forward to the days ahead.