We have a lot going on in our family right now. A lot of that I am going to keep private, but what I can talk about are the challenges of managing family needs during this time, working full time, being 25 weeks pregnant, and supporting my own wellness during an incredibly stressful and demanding time.
This was one of the most difficult weeks I have been through as an adult, wife, and mother. We are all in great health and the baby is kicking away, so we are thankful for the abundance of blessings through the fog. It was a bad week from the moment I woke up Monday morning. Although absolutely minimal in the big picture, my week started off with a broken coffee maker at 4:15 AM before working out, which was a bad sign. The rest of the early morning went as planned, getting a great workout in, getting ready for work, getting Magnolia ready for the day, and getting out the door for the work week.
The events that followed on Monday were shocking and really rocked our family and it continued to build throughout the week. I would have been emotional, regardless of being pregnant, but I have cried more this week than I’d care to admit. My Monday ended with a box of tissues, a box of brownies (that I never made because I was too exhausted), and a lot of uncertainty.
It really is in the difficult times that you see how much you and your spouse need one another for support, the absolute joy that comes from being a parent of a child, and the unconditional love that a dog provides. Even now, as I write this, Theodore (our Westie) is sleeping next to me and I am thankful for his comfort. Neal has been a rock for our family and I am grateful for the balance he brings to my life and for his support.
These next few weeks are going to be challenging and at the core of everything, I am trying to stay calm for my pregnancy. Being stressed, not eating, and staying up far too late thinking isn’t good for me, the baby, or my family. This next week is going to be hectic, but I know I can at least create a good schedule for our family, can use this weekend to rest, relax, and clean the house, can use workouts as a form of stress relief, and can cling to my husband, family, and friends. The silver lining is that we had already planned to go to Texas this month, so we’re looking forward to the time away from DC and to spending time with our friends and family in Texas.
My work week ended with a root canal, which seemed like the appropriate ending to a horrible week for our family. I know that I need to be kind to myself during this time, but boy do we take on a lot of stress as women and as moms. I can think of a few women in my life right now who are going through a lot and I think they would also agree that they don’t prioritize themselves the way they should when their family is in need. I think it’s at the core of every woman, to give all of themselves in times of need. It’s a beautiful characteristic, but it is also very challenging.
If you have any insight or advice for managing a very stressful family time, I’d love to hear your thoughts over on the Balancing Today Facebook page. One thing I have learned over the years is that those around us often hold the wisdom we need to get through a difficult time. We can learn from one another and as always, I am eternally grateful for this place to share my voice and to connect with each one of you.
If you’re going through a difficult time, please know that you’re not alone, and I hope you can find support through the words others share.