I am absolutely thrilled to welcome my dear friend, Kim, to Balancing Today today to talk about finding balance in pregnancy. Kim works outside of the house full time as a lawyer, is married to an amazing husband who also works outside of the home, is the mom of an active (almost) 3 year old, and is expecting her second daughter in May.
A big piece of Balancing Today, which I’m working to develop over this year, is to open a door for other moms to share their personal stories and advice. Kim is our first guest here on Balancing Today and I am just so grateful to learn from her experience. If you are interested in being a guest of Balancing Today, please e-mail me at BalancingToday@gmail.com.
When I was pregnant with my older daughter, Cece, who’s now nearly 3, pregnancy consumed my life for those months when I was expecting. I joined Facebook mommy groups, religiously read my copy of What to Expect When You’re Expecting, prepped my registry, decorated a nursery with the perfect theme, and had a Pinterest board full of baby inspiration. I read Pregnant Chicken and Lucie’s List and countless other mommy blogs to make sure I was making the “right” purchases for all things baby. It was overwhelming and all consuming, and not surprisingly, it wasn’t healthy for me mentally to let pregnancy take me over so completely.
Now that I’m nearing the end of pregnancy number 2, I have a little bit of perspective as I look back over the past 8 months. Overall, I’ve done a better job of achieving balance through this pregnancy. I’m sure having an older daughter at home has helped. I’m unable to be completely consumed by all things pregnancy because—let’s face it—I don’t have time. It’s also not my first rodeo so I know that everything doesn’t have to be perfect. There’s no right or wrong way to bring a new baby into the world or to survive those first few months. As long as your baby is fed and loved, the rest just sort of falls into place.
It’s a constant struggle for me to walk the balance beam of my life as a working mom. It’s been even more challenging while pregnant. My normal balance that’s been established over the last two+ years as we settled into our life as parents to Cece has been disrupted. I can’t exercise as regularly or as hard as I would like, which has mentally been a tough pill to swallow. I also can’t “go go go” at lightning speed on the weekends or even in the evenings during the week. We’ve eaten out more meals than I care to admit and I’m living out of two baskets full of clean laundry that I don’t have the energy to hang in my closet. These are the things that have to give in order to keep the balance in my life so I can stay afloat.
I’ve had to learn to prioritize over the last few months, and while I’m not perfect, I think I’ve done a good job at making my family and my work my priorities. I’ve still made time for my health through my exercise routine as much as possible, but I’m cutting myself some slack as needed. There’s been plenty of days when I’ve cut back my social calendar in favor of rest. And the house is not in perfect shape—as I write, I’m looking around a living room with baby dolls and blankets scattered all over the place. But at the end of the day, I’m surviving, my family is loved and happy, and I think even my husband would tell you I’m so much happier this pregnancy than the last. I’m soaking up these last weeks while my daughter has my full attention. And overall, I just feel at peace and content.