Neal and I have been spending a lot of time these past few weeks talking about our values, the goals we have for our family, and our personal goals. As we moved into our 5th year of marriage this summer and watched our beautiful daughter turn 2 a few weeks ago, I think we both had this “OMG” moment. Neal and I have been able to cross so many things off of our first 5 year plan, like starting a family and buying a home, and we’re both very grateful. It’s pretty amazing how quickly these 5 years have gone by!
This week Neal and I are separately working on our list of goals for the next 5-10 years and will come together this weekend to create one list. As much as I love to plan, this activity takes up a lot of energy as it’s so important to the both of us. It takes me time to really get to the core of what my goals are and the steps I’ll need to take to get their. I often find that a process like this is full of highs and lows because I really have to take the time to reflect on my personal values, to recognize my achievements, and to acknowledge the areas I’d like to see change. It’s important to me to dig deep, to sort through everything, and then to come out with a clear set of values and goals for our future. It’s a good place to at and I’m really looking forward to talking through everything with Neal next weekend.
Coming into the new week, one of my personal goals was to be more mindful. I started listening to a new book, The Confidence Gap, which talks a lot about mindfulness and I appreciated how the concepts coincided with the goal setting Neal and I are working on. I’m still learning about mindfulness, but the past few weeks have opened my eyes to how badly I need to do less, or at least less of certain things. I want to be more present and to focus more on doing one thing at a time. I’ve always prided myself on being a great multitasker, but I’ve reached a place where I no longer find joy in multitasking and having this many things on my plate. It was great when I was 25, single, and in grad school, but now as a wife, mother, and director, I’m craving a simpler life, a quieter life, and a life filled with more memory making moments. I don’t want to look back in 20 years and realize that I spent those years doing all the wrong things and having little to show for it.
Creating goals with Neal for the next 5-10 years is a great first step and I know I can work on being more mindful each day. For now, that means focusing on one thing at a time, making the most of what I am spending my time on, and enjoying the moments along the way. My favorite mindful moments yesterday included:
-Getting a great OrangeTheory workout in before work
-Reading scriptures before eating breakfast
-Listening to The Confidence Gap during both of my commutes
-Eating lunch at work and not multitasking while eating
-Measuring and tracking everything I ate yesterday
-Going for a walk with my family in the evening
-Eating dinner with Neal at the dinner table
-Playing with Magnolia before her bedtime
-Blogging after Magnolia went to bed
I was still able to accomplish a lot yesterday, but I ended the day feeling less frazzled. I felt accomplished and satisfied. It was a great start to the work week and I’m looking forward to a new day tomorrow.